It has been over a year since the world, and state of Pennsylvania, shut down because of the Covid-19 pandemic. As things begin to reopen, are you ready to get back out there? If you are feeling anxious, stressed, uncertain about re-entering society, you are not alone. This is an exciting, yet nerve-wracking time. We […]
It has been over a year since the world, and state of Pennsylvania, shut down because of the Covid-19 pandemic. As things begin to reopen, are you ready to get back out there? If you are feeling anxious, stressed, uncertain about re-entering society, you are not alone. This is an exciting, yet nerve-wracking time. We have all just been through a traumatic event. It is ok to feel whatever you are feeling.
This past year our mental health has been rattled. We have been faced with constant questions, uncertainty, fear of the unknown, loss of loved ones, time, and experiences. It has been nothing short of difficult. We aren’t expected to just dive right back into “normalcy.” It will take some time to adjust.
Here are some tips to help you as you make plans to re-enter society post-pandemic:
When things are out of control we often feel anxious and stressed, and right now there is a lot that is out of our control. But, not everything. There are some things you can control. Focus on those. For example, you can control when/if you get a vaccine, your personal distance to others, where you go to attend gatherings (outside vs inside), and whether you wear a mask. You can create your own personal boundaries. If you aren’t ready to do something yet, you don’t have to. You decide if you go or avoid the situation and you decide when to leave. It can help to make a list of all the positives to keep with you.
There is so much that we missed out on last year — vacations, birthday parties, festivals, concerts, hugs from loved ones. Everything was canceled due to Covid-19. There was so much disappointment, but that isn’t the case this year. You can now do so many of the things around Pennsylvania, and the world, you wanted to do last year but couldn’t. Make a list of all the things you want to do and allow yourself to get excited. Boosting your excitement will help to ease some of those anxious feelings.
Instead of trying to fight off (or ignore) whatever it is you are feeling, allow yourself to feel. If you are grieving a loss, anxious about attending events, or going into public, let yourself feel and accept those feelings. It is ok to be unsure, anxious, depressed, scared, sad, excited, happy, etc. Whatever it is that you are going through, it is ok. There is no one-way of feeling and no right or wrong way. It is completely normal to be struggling. Counseling can be a great help for anyone who isn’t sure how to move forward in this post-pandemic world.
We all have different comfort levels. Some people have been ready to re-enter the world for months, while others have continued to stay cautious. It doesn’t matter where you are on the spectrum of post-pandemic readiness. Move at a pace you are comfortable with. If you aren’t ready for a concert or festival, or to send your children back to school, then don’t. If you aren’t ready for gatherings or returning to the office, be open with others. You decide what you are or are not willing to do.
It is important that you know the latest information on what is safe and healthy and what is not. But, that doesn’t mean it is healthy to have the news on 24/7 or be glued to your devices. Disconnect. Recognize when you are feeling overwhelmed and turn it off. Get your information from reliable sources and leave the rest.
Living through a global pandemic is traumatic. We all went through big changes, transitions, tremendous loss, and personal tests. It is perfectly normal to be struggling. If you are having trouble moving forward or re-entering the post-pandemic world, consider seeing a counseling professional. A licensed therapist can help provide healthy coping tools so you can care for your mental health.
Ready to begin counseling in Pennsylvania?
Counselors at CW Psychological Services are professionally trained and licensed. We have openings for online, or telehealth, therapy appointments. Email us at info@cwpsychologicalservices.com or call at (610) 308-7575. We are here for you.
When we’re young, life transitions are fun and empowering. We go from crawling to walking, walking to running. We start with training wheels but soon no longer need them. As we age we graduate into higher grades and become more independent. But as adults, life transitions can feel not so fun and far from empowering, […]
When we’re young, life transitions are fun and empowering. We go from crawling to walking, walking to running. We start with training wheels but soon no longer need them. As we age we graduate into higher grades and become more independent.
But as adults, life transitions can feel not so fun and far from empowering, because life transitions can often include loss: loss of a job, a marriage, and loved ones. During these life transitions, we can feel out to sea, completely at the mercy of the tides that seem to be tossing our lifeboat around.
If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed right now because you are facing one or more life transitions, here are some ways you can navigate these choppy waters:
Slow Down
Have you noticed that the pace of life has picked up? Most likely your heartbeat and breathing have also picked up as a response. It’s time to slow down.
As simple as it may sound, slow, deep breaths are a powerful way to tell your body that everything is okay. Right now, your body is in “fight or flight mode,” as you subconsciously, and maybe even consciously, feel you are being attacked. Making time each day to be still, away from the noise and chaos to breathe deeply and slowly, will slow down your heart rate and make you feel calm and peaceful.
Embrace Uncertainty
I know, it seems completely counterintuitive if not downright impossible. But when we surrender control and embrace the unknown, with an almost scientific curiosity about outcomes, we feel positive emotions (curiosity, wonder) instead of negative emotions (lost, out of control).
Acknowledge the Cycles of Life
Someone once said, “This too shall pass.” Life, like weather, has seasons. While you may feel stuck right now and like nothing is going the way you hoped or planned, recognize the truth, which is, this too shall pass. Transitions are just that, an uncomfortable bridge from one part of life to the next.
Fall Back on Traditions
Rites of passage have been used for thousands of years in all cultures to help people transition from one place in life to another. It’s time to call upon this ancient wisdom of our ancestors and empower ourselves.
Rites of passage put us in the driver’s seat. We can acknowledge that things MUST change because we intuitively understand that the human journey is all about facing challenges and becoming new versions of ourselves.
Life, such as it is, throws us curve balls and sadness and things that cast fear and doubt into our vision. This is natural and no one escapes.
But there ARE ways to navigate these challenges. Try these three tips. And if you’d like additional help along your journey, please get in touch with me.
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One only needs to read a few lines from poets such as Frost, Wordsworth, and Thoreau to recognize the love for and connection to nature human beings have always had. Nature stirs our souls and imagination and brings beauty to our everyday lives. But it turns out, nature also brings a slew of benefits to […]
One only needs to read a few lines from poets such as Frost, Wordsworth, and Thoreau to recognize the love for and connection to nature human beings have always had. Nature stirs our souls and imagination and brings beauty to our everyday lives. But it turns out, nature also brings a slew of benefits to our mental and physical health.
Research is now clearly indicating that spending time outdoors can have a positive impact on our health. Whether you bike, hike, or simply sit under a tree enjoying the sights and sounds, time in nature has shown to reduce stress, slow heart rate, improve pain, lower cortisol, and stimulate the immune system by boosting the production of natural killer cells that fight disease and infection.
In addition, time outside means time in the sun, and THAT means getting a nice boost of vitamin D, which can do everything from preventing disease, make our bones and teeth stronger, and improve our mood.
Ecotherapy, which is also sometimes referred to as nature therapy, is a practice in the emerging field of ecopsychology. The idea behind this practice is that many modern people, whether they are aware of it or not, feel a massive disconnect from the natural world. When you think about it, our ancestors spent hundreds of thousands of years living WITH nature, feeling it under their bare feet, being outside, ebbing and flowing with the shifts in seasons.
But today, most of us are only connected to a digital device. Ecotherapy gets us away from our screens and out into the beauty of the natural world. Many clinicians, including myself, believe that the earth has a natural ability to balance us. When we get back in touch with the systems of nature, we can experience improved mental health.
If you are feeling out of sorts and like the idea of trying ecotherapy, you can simply spend more time outside. If you would like someone to help you reconnect with nature, please get in touch with me. I am a big proponent of nature therapy and use it in my practice.
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As we enter Mental Health Awareness Month and reflect upon the past year and all the social isolation we have endured, we want to share reasons why staying socially connected is so important. As the National Alliance on Mental Illness touts in their latest campaign, “You Are Not Alone.” Here is why that matters.
Humans are social beings. It is in our DNA. Studies of our primate ancestors show that they traveled in groups for a variety of reasons, from more success hunting/gathering to reproducing and raising children. Social groups, at that time, were the difference between life and death.
Things might look different nowadays but, as people, we are still very much hardwired for social interaction. Being isolated from others is uncomfortable, even for the introvert. It is no wonder that feeling connected with others is so important to our overall mental and physical well-being.
As we enter Mental Health Awareness Month and reflect upon the past year and all the social isolation we have endured, we want to share reasons why staying socially connected is so important. As the National Alliance on Mental Illness touts in their latest campaign, “You Are Not Alone.” Here is why that matters:
As people, we crave feeling supported, valued, and connected. Think about the flutter you get when someone tells you “good job” or likes an image or achievement of yours on social media. That warm feeling that fills you when your spouse, a child, or a friend gives you a hug. Those feelings of assurance you get when someone else expresses that they are similar to you in one way or other, maybe through a shared thought or experience. Think about calling a friend after a bad day or a good one and sharing that experience. That is all connection at work.
Research shows that a key difference between happy people and less-happy people is good relationships. No one wants to feel like they are in this life all by themselves. Feeling lonely is miserable. In fact, loneliness has been linked to a higher risk of high blood pressure in older adults. People who have meaningful connections tend to be in better health, they value their life and want to take care of themselves.
Connection happens in a variety of ways. Sometimes it is a deep heart-to-heart conversation, while other times it is a funny text or email that lifts you up a bit.
Connection happens when:
There are a few things everyone needs when it comes to social support. We all need someone we are comfortable being around, someone we can let our guard down with. We need someone we feel like we can “tell anything” without judgment. Someone we can trust, who will take us seriously. We also need someone who can help us with problem-solving, a sounding board to bounce ideas off. We need to feel valued by others.
Making sure you have the right kind of support is crucial to being mentally healthy. A mental health counselor or therapist can help provide areas of connection that may be missing in your life. They can offer a different perspective. A counselor is trustworthy, someone you can tell anything, and will help you to problem solve and feel validated.
Even with the increase in those receiving vaccinations, the Covid-19 virus is still very much a part of our lives. What are some ways we can find and stay connected to others as safe as possible?
Utilize the internet and social media to connect through message boards, blogs, and photo sharing with family and friends. It doesn’t take much to feel connected. Be sure to call family and friends, even if it feels like the last thing you want to be doing. Get creative. An old-fashioned letter can go a long way to lifting someone’s spirits. Volunteer at organizations you care about so you can get to know like-minded individuals. Or, consider joining a book or other club of interest. Finally, socialize in person when you are able to put the proper safety mechanisms in place.
Online therapy is available so you can receive the support you need from the safety of your own space. It can be a great tool to get you feeling your best.
Counselors at CW Psychological Services are professionally trained and licensed. We have openings for online, or telehealth, therapy appointments. Email us at info@cwpsychologicalservices.com or call at (610) 308-7575.
If you’re like most people, you brought in the new year with a list of resolutions. And if you’re like most people, all of those resolutions have one goal: to better your life in some way. Whether that is through eating right, working out, learning a new language or decluttering your home office, resolutions are […]
If you’re like most people, you brought in the new year with a list of resolutions. And if you’re like most people, all of those resolutions have one goal: to better your life in some way. Whether that is through eating right, working out, learning a new language or decluttering your home office, resolutions are made to help us live our best lives.
In all of these instances (health, weight loss, decluttering) therapy can help.
You see, most people believe mental health therapy is something you seek when there is a major crisis; when we need help navigating depression or anxiety; when we’re going through a big transition, or when our marriage is on the verge of collapse.
And while therapy can absolutely help with all of these scenarios, it offers numerous benefits you may not have thought of:
Different therapy protocols have been shown to improve different physical symptoms associated with stress. This includes a reduction in migraines, digestive upset, better appetite and improved sleep.
Many of us think we are running our lives when really, our lives are being run by subconscious programming from early childhood. Therapy helps clients understand where feelings, beliefs and behaviors really come from. Through treatment, individuals can become more self-aware and empowered to take responsibility for the lives they are creating. In this way, THEY create their lives instead of their lives being something that is happening TO them.
Of course, self-awareness also means becoming aware of your passions and desires. Many people spend a majority of their life doing what others want instead of what THEY want. And many people simply don’t KNOW what they want in life.
Therapy can help you become an archeologist of sorts, digging into your heart, mind and soul to uncover what it is you value, love, desire, need and want.
It’s the new year and we all have new goals that we are hoping to reach. Well, therapy can help you reach those goals!
A trained therapist can help you set achievable goals as well as help you outline the micro steps you’ll need to take to get there. They can also then act as coach and cheerleader, supporting your efforts to reach your goals.
Yes, therapy is something that you can turn to for depression, addiction, and help with your crumbling relationships. But therapy can help with so much more. If you’d like to explore treatment options in the new year, please get in touch with me.
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If you struggle to set goals, let alone reach them, you are definitely not alone. In fact, it is thought that roughly 92% of the population has found it hard to stick to goals. This constant cycle of trying to set beneficial life or health goals, but never quite reaching them, can ultimately lead to […]
If you struggle to set goals, let alone reach them, you are definitely not alone. In fact, it is thought that roughly 92% of the population has found it hard to stick to goals. This constant cycle of trying to set beneficial life or health goals, but never quite reaching them, can ultimately lead to depression.
That’s because reaching goals is empowering and helps us feel we are in charge of our life. When we don’t reach goals, we feel powerless and even hopeless that our lives can change for the better!
Just as you must follow a recipe to the proverbial “T” to end up with something edible, there is a formula that must be followed to the “T” to set reachable goals. This formula is often used in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help individuals set and reach goals that will help them change behaviors and better their lives.
Goal setting has actually been shown to be a useful tool for those suffering from depression according to a study published in the journal PLOS ONE. The study found that individuals suffering from depression had more trouble setting goals and were far less likely to believe they could reach them.
The study found that those who were depressed had more difficulties setting goals and they were also less likely to believe they would achieve those goals. The participants also tended to set avoidance goals rather than approach goals.
An avoidance goal is one you set to avoid a negative outcome. “I want to lose weight so I don’t develop type 2 diabetes.” An approach goal, on the other hand, is one that you set to ensure a positive outcome. “I want to lose weight to have more energy!”
The study shows that counseling can help people with depression set and achieve realistic and achievable goals as well as help them stay on track mentally in pursuit of that goal.
The goal-setting formula used by most CBT therapists is as follows:
A therapist can help you with each one of these steps. From ensuring you select realistic goals that are approach goals, to helping you identify where you are in relation to your goal, breaking down the goal into smaller, actionable steps, and helping you take that very first one, a counselor or coach will be in your corner, helping you every step of the way.
Make 2021 the year you reach those goals that will help you live your best life. If you’d like some help getting there, please get in touch with me. I’d be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help.
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Human beings have a need for social connection. It stems from our ancestors needing to stick together to stay alive. Back in the day, those individuals who strayed from the group had a harder time surviving the elements and not starving to death. While it is far safer to be an individual these days, that […]
Human beings have a need for social connection. It stems from our ancestors needing to stick together to stay alive. Back in the day, those individuals who strayed from the group had a harder time surviving the elements and not starving to death.
While it is far safer to be an individual these days, that doesn’t mean it is healthy for us to be isolated, for isolation undoubtedly threatens a person’s mental well-being.
It is for this very reason that people suffering from depression and other mental health issues need the love and encouragement from a support network
When a person suffers from depression, they live with a constant pit of despair at their side. Every moment hurts and the truth about life remains elusive.
When we feel these dark feelings, there is a natural tendency to retreat and isolate ourselves. But this only makes the dark darker.
Recovery from depression is a complex process but you don’t need to go it alone. By surrounding yourself with friends and loved ones, you can continue to feel genuine connections, and each one of those connections is a light that can pierce through the darkness.
Research suggests there is a definite link between social relationships and many different aspects of a person’s mental health and wellness. It is for this reason that mental health professionals often discuss the importance of having a strong social network.
Social support comes in many different forms. Sometimes you might need help with daily tasks if you are struggling with depression. Sometimes you may need an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on, and sometimes you may need some sound advice.
Whatever you may be going through and whatever kind of help you need, here are some ways you can build a support network of people that love and care about you.
1. Create a List
Make a shortlist of friends and family members who have shown their love, kindness, and support in the past.
2. Make a Commitment
Commit to reaching out to someone on your list every week (if not more). You can do this through a phone call, text, email, or in person.
3. Be Honest
The people that love you can only help and support you if you are honest with them. When you reach out, share what is on your mind and heart. Talk openly about any struggles you are dealing with and be sure to be open to any fresh perspective or advice.
4. Get Out – When Possible
With COVID still affecting our lives, it’s not always easy to get out and be social in person but doing so is remarkably helpful and healing for our mental health. Phone calls and emails work in a pinch, but nothing beats spending time with loved ones in person.
It’s also important to mention that sometimes we need a bit more help than our loved ones can give. If, after forming your support network, you feel that you need additional help, it’s vital you reach out to a mental health specialist. He or she can give you tools and strategies that will help you recover from depression.
If you’d like to explore treatment options, please reach out to me. I’d be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.
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None of us were prepared for the global pandemic we find ourselves in. Not parents, teachers, and certainly not the healthcare workers around the country. Doctors and nurses suddenly found themselves working double shifts to care for sick people. As the rest of the world went into lockdown and people stayed home, safe and sound, […]
None of us were prepared for the global pandemic we find ourselves in. Not parents, teachers, and certainly not the healthcare workers around the country. Doctors and nurses suddenly found themselves working double shifts to care for sick people. As the rest of the world went into lockdown and people stayed home, safe and sound, these frontline workers showed up day after day, putting their health and life on the line.
Many, in an effort to keep their families safe, found other living arrangements. The idea of possibly exposing their family to something they may have been exposed to at work was too much of a risk, and so many mothers and fathers also had to deal with the stress and sadness of being away from their family during the height of the pandemic.
While many frontline workers appear stoic, all of this stress and fear took its toll, even on the bravest among us. As a result, many frontline workers have found themselves burnt out and experiencing symptoms of depression and anxiety.
It’s common for everyone to feel stressed or sad from time to time. But when certain symptoms linger, you are typically dealing with depression or anxiety. If you’ve never dealt with either before, you may not know the symptoms.
Symptoms of depression include:
Symptoms of anxiety can include:
For many healthcare workers, all of their time and focus is on how they can help others. The idea of self-care and asking others for help is not something on their radar.
If you are a healthcare worker that is experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression as a result of COVID, it’s really important that you let someone else help you right now. A therapist can offer strategies that will help you cope with your symptoms and deal with the underlying emotions.
If you or someone you know would benefit from mental health therapy, please get in touch with me. I offer both in-person appointments as well as online support.
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Post-Election Stress Disorder is a very real thing, especially these days. It doesn’t seem to matter which side of the fence you are on, tensions and anxiety are at an all-time high.
Post-Election Stress Disorder is a very real thing, especially these days. It doesn’t seem to matter which side of the fence you are on, tensions and anxiety are at an all-time high. Whether you are concerned about the future of the country, your children, the economy, health care, or having conversations with friends/family, there is a good chance you are struggling with some form of post-election stress. Add to that the uncertainty of a global pandemic, and it just might feel like your plate is overflowing.
You and your family’s mental health is important, so what can you do to combat post-election stress and breathe a little easier in the face of uncertainty?
It is normal to feel stressed and overwhelmed at various points throughout your life but if the stress you feel is making it difficult to get out of bed in the morning or perform basic everyday activities, it could be time to get help. Take a moment to check-in with yourself and determine how your post-election stress is impacting the day-to-day. Are you avoiding conversations with friends or family? Are you skipping out on activities that used to bring you joy? Are you overcome with worry about the future? Are you struggling with sleep? Are you having trouble concentrating?
At CW Psychological Services we provide online therapy and counseling services to clients throughout the state of Pennsylvania. We are here to teach you healthy coping mechanisms and empower you to find calm.
It can be easy to get sucked into the 24-hour news cycle and before you know it you are left feeling anxious, exhausted, and overwhelmed by all the negative information being sent your way. Instead, set a time limit for yourself to take in the news. Turn off your news alerts. Allow yourself to watch the nightly news or a few minutes of a morning show, or read the newspaper with your morning coffee. Then, call it a day.
Also, pay attention to how you feel when you are on social media. If social media networks are making you feel down, limit your time. Don’t act impulsively with comments and statements, that will just lead to more of a headache. And, definitely be mindful of media consumption leading up to bedtime.
Sometimes the best way to de-stress is to channel those feelings into something positive and productive. Maybe there is a project you have been meaning to work on, use that stress energy to get to work. Instead of wallowing in misery, channel those feelings into helping others. Yes, you might be concerned about the future of the country but that doesn’t mean you can’t help others right now. Maybe it is cleaning out closets to donate unused items to people in need. Maybe it is raising money for charity or volunteering for a meaningful cause. There is so much need in the world, any help is good help.
It is easy for political conversations to go south and get heated, building wedges between yourself and those you care about. You don’t have to agree with your friends or family on politics, but that also means you should avoid topics surrounding politics. Set ground rules before family/friend gatherings and make everyone aware—conversations involving politics are off-limits. If you do decide to talk politics don’t make it about convincing someone to change their position, rather make it about trying to understand other points of view.
The number one thing you should be doing, now and always, is taking care of yourself. Practice healthy habits—eating right, getting sleep, unplugging from media, and exercising. Whatever self-care looks like for you, don’t forget to do it. Doing things that help you feel your best equip you to handle the uncertainties and unrest of the future.
Work on self-awareness. If you are feeling spent from an afternoon of election talk, cut yourself off. Binge-watch your favorite funny TV show, bake, listen to music, play video games, or get lost in a good book to take your mind off of everything else.
And, get help when you need it. It is ok to be struggling with all that is going on. It is ok to not be ok. You are not alone.
Counselors at CW Psychological Services are professionally-trained and licensed. We have openings for online, or telehealth, therapy appointments. Email us at info@cwpsychologicalservices.com or call at (610) 308-7575. We are here for you.
Most human beings have implicit biases. And that’s okay, as long as we are aware of them and aware of how our attitudes affect others. In the United States, black people have lived through a long history of violence and social injustice. With the recent deaths of George Floyd and Rayshard Brooks, the Black Lives […]
Most human beings have implicit biases. And that’s okay, as long as we are aware of them and aware of how our attitudes affect others.
In the United States, black people have lived through a long history of violence and social injustice. With the recent deaths of George Floyd and Rayshard Brooks, the Black Lives Matter movement has organized many protests around the nation, inspiring people from all walks of life to take a long hard look at themselves and their own beliefs.
To this end, cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT for short, can help us all better understand the Black Lives Matter movement and how we can help heal the divide among the races. The entire goal of CBT is to change a person’s thought patterns in order to change their responses to difficult situations.
CBT combines psychotherapy and behavioral therapy. Psychotherapy emphasizes the importance of the personal meaning each individual places on events and circumstances. Behavioral therapy looks at the relationship between our thoughts, our problems, and our subsequent behaviors. Most therapists who practice CBT personalize the therapy to the specific needs and personality of each client.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been used for decades to treat adults, families, children, and adolescents. It has shown great success in treating depression, general anxiety disorder, PTSD, stress, anger issues, OCD, and marital difficulties. It has been so successful in treating myriad mental conditions precisely because it helps individuals reframe what they think about a particular belief or event. It is for this reason that I and other therapists have begun to use CBT to help people understand the BLM movement and how they can help it grow and make powerful changes.
If you are interested in exploring CBT treatment, it’s important to look for a licensed therapist with specialized training and experience. Beyond these credentials, it’s also important to look for an individual you feel comfortable with.
If you are interested in exploring CBT, please reach out to me. I would be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.
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